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>> Where can an anatomical male buy womens clothing from a store with courteous, empathetic, and non-judgemental staff?
It is important to be cautious to avoid harassment and discrimination. For store referrals and other resources contact: Gemini Gender @ 414-297-9328 | | >> Growing up a gay male and not telling ANYONE in the world about it was really hard. I'm 19 now and have told only 3 people (all of whom were gay, thankfully :-D) for the first time this year, but still, I don't know if I want to come out to everyone, especially to my family. My mom has explicitly told me "If you were gay, I'd still love you, but I'd be really disappointed." Also, my brother and mom constantly make fun of gay people. And I think my grandma would be crushed if I told her that I was gay. I love my family a LOT- they mean so much to me- but I know things will be COMPLETELY different if I told them, and not in a good way. What should I do?
Also, growing up closeted and not trying to pursue my sexuality except for by myself, I don't know how to date a guy, kiss a guy, or do ANYTHING with a guy without me being completely awkward. Is there anything online to teach someone who hasn't "played the field" how to do everything? Or are there older, more experienced gays that can show me how to do everything? Thank you so much for this service!
It concerns me that you are seeking someone to "show you how" to be gay. Your identity is your own to develop and experience. There is more to being gay than sexual experiences. Gay identity encompasses emotional, physical, and/or sexual attraction to members of the same gender. The coming out process can be difficult, especially if you are isolated. Develop friendships with people you can trust. Friends can be a great support while you are experiencing the ups and downs of dating. It is okay to show family members who you really are. It can take time for others to understand that you are the same person that they love and care about. But it is better that they learn from you than from the media, television shows, and church. There are groups in WI for young LGBT adults: Project Q in Milwaukee, Galaxy in LaCrosse, and Harmony Cafe in Appleton. These are great places to meet people your own age, to be supported in coming out, and to learn about growing up gay. Do not seek sexual experiences from people who are older than you. This can lead to situations where you will be taken advantage of. It is a good idea to develop relationships with people who are your age and are also new to dating and coming out to parents and family. For more advice contact the Youth Development Coordinators at Project Q by calling 414-223-3220. | |
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